Recently I contemplated a loss in my life having to do with one of my children. I was surprised to discover that in a certain aspect of this loss, there was still unfinished business. These words came to mind as I asked God to show me what was going on in my soul.
You are grieved beyond grace.
As I prayed for wisdom, I felt those words meant that because I have not fully dealt with my grief, I have not been able to fully receive His grace and then pass it along in an extravagant way (God’s way) to others–including my daughter.
This truth has been echoing in my mind ever since: Not grieving fully over our losses can do much damage to our spiritual lives.
I have experienced God’s grace and comfort being poured out on me in other areas of my life where I’ve allowed myself to grieve fully ie. over my childhood losses. The following verse has played out in my life as God has comforted me and then used me to comfort those who have gone through difficult childhoods and other hardships. But I want this verse to permeate every aspect of this more recent sense of loss that is troubling my soul.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 1 Corinthians 1:4 NIV
In the Beatitudes it says, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” (Matthew 5:4 NIV). Comforting is God’s part, but the first half of the verse is my part. Although I mourn for moments at a time, I often avoid mourning in the way I believe God wants me to—in His presence with a heart open to receive His comfort. I confess that too often I’ve turned to comforts this world offers such as things to be eaten, bought, watched or listened to. At times I have not done well at receiving comfort directly from God, from His Word, or from His people.
And so now my heart is open. I am ready and willing to receive all the grace—in the form of comfort—that God has for me. I am willing to mourn my loss in any way that God directs.
One of these days by faith I believe I will proclaim over this situation that has caused such grief in my heart—grief I keep trying to bury and not deal with:
You have turned my mourning into dancing for me; You have put off my sackcloth and girded me with gladness. Psalm 30:11 AMP
How about you? Is there an area of your life where you are grieved beyond receiving grace from God and extending it to others? Bring your grief to God, and He will generously give You grace in return.
Check out the following link which has the words to “He Giveth More Grace” by Annie Johnson Flint, who also suffered loss in her life (see her bio there). She allowed God to comfort her, and all these many years later her words are such a comfort to many.