Years ago when I first heard of Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family, I remember he spoke often of two kinds of children: the strong-willed child and the compliant child.
In looking up the word strong-willed recently, here is the definition I found: strong-minded, obstinate, stubborn, firm, independent, uncompromising, unbending, defiant.
Another definition said “determined to do something that you want to do, even if others do not want you to do it.”
For compliant I found: manageable, capable of being controlled, submissive, conformable, willing, obedient, nonresistant.
I confess that too often as a Christian child of God I have fallen under the strong-willed category.
The good news is that any of us can be transformed from being a strong-willed to a compliant child—from a child who resists the Lord to a child that submits.
Over the years, I can see God at work in me making me into a more compliant child.
Recently as I prayed about this battle of resisting vs embracing God’s will, this is what came to mind. “Surrender to My will. Keep in your mind: ‘not my will, but Yours be done.’ Stop resisting. Will to do My will. Ask what My will is.”
As I meditated on surrendering to God’s will vs insisting on my own way, I thought of John 5:30 in the Amplified Bible which presents what Jesus said on the subject:
…I do not seek or consult My own will [I have no desire to do what is pleasing to Myself, My own aim, My own purpose] but only the will and pleasure of the Father Who sent Me.
Every time I read that, I find it amazing to discover how compliant Jesus was. I know that my Savior said and lived these words from John 5:30 as an example and as a goal for me and for other Christians.
I’m relieved to discover I don’t have to learn compliance on my own. As I determine to submit to God and will to do His will, He helps brings me closer to being able to say of every issue in my life:
…not my will, but yours be done.” Luke 22:42 NIV
My part is to be willing to continue on this sometimes difficult journey to the place where my only desire is to do His will.
That’s where I want to go.
Are you willing to join me on that journey?