Set Free to Forgive

He lies. He deceives. He has no empathy. He won’t listen.

Once again I find myself looking up Psalm 37—the psalm I turn to when feeling torn over what a “wicked” person has been doing to me. The psalm starts out: “Fret not yourself because of evildoers.” That’s just what I’ve fallen into—again.

These verses stand out:

Cease from anger and forsake wrath; fret not yourself—it tends only to evildoing…For yet a little while, and the evildoers will be no more; though you look with care where they used to be, they will not be found. (8-10 amp)

I confess I’ve been giving in to anger. This issue isn’t a big one—in the context of my whole life–but still fussing and fuming is taking over my soul. If it was only in the past, it seems I could forget about it. But every time we’re together some new bad thing happens—especially in my attitude.

I know I have to stop this fretting. God reminds me in this psalm that it leads only to making matters worse—to becoming like the person who’s hurting me.

The promise God brings back to mind is that those who are the evildoers in my everyday world won’t be there forever. They will be cut off. That has happened again and again. God removes them from my life. I think of ten years ago, and many of the people who were fighting against me are no longer there. Some have died. And the others? About most of them I can say: I have no idea where they are.

In the “mean” time—in this present situation–I have an assignment. That is to avoid fretting. For me fretting leads to unforgiveness–to feeling bitter and even thinking about revenge.

Some thoughts that spring from freedom are: Is it possible God put this person in my life to remind me of the importance of forgiveness—of the benefit of avoiding bitterness? Of extending mercy?

I feel like I’m losing because of what this person has been doing. God shows me I’m losing because of what I’ve allowed this situation to do to me. Winning comes when I forgive and show God’s mercy.

I’m seeing how much this person needs the Lord and how blessed I am with all the benefits that come from knowing Him. Could it be that showing God’s mercy will draw this wayward soul to the Lord? I pray it would be so. God, give me grace to forgive.

How about you? Is there someone in your life that is challenging your kindness quotient? Are you willing to embrace God’s grace, so you can forgive?

(Note: this is not the same person I wrote about in last week’s blog.)

About elainecreasman

I am a freelance writer and inspirational speaker. Since 1986 I have led the Suncoast Christian Writers Group.
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3 Responses to Set Free to Forgive

  1. Jane Reece says:

    How refreshing to read of a Believer who chooses to take responsibility and not blame the devil or stand on the crutch of a generational curse. I often remind mtself of who is doing the fretting. Cheers for this fine article, Elaine. Will reread.

  2. Dawn says:

    I can’t believe how many times in the past two days that I have gotten that same scripture. In fact, that was my Psalm for 2010. I guess it’s still my Psalm. I belong to a Bible Study/Discipleship group on Tuesday nights. Yesterday morning Psalm 37:5,6 was in my morning devotional, so I went back to read the whole Psalm. We all read the entire Psalm last night. This morning I pull up your blog to read. There it is again. What you were saying, is exactly what we were talking about last night. I sent the group your blog. I love how God confirms what we are hearing from Him!

  3. Beth Willis Miller says:

    Elaine, I love your open, honest, and transparent writing…two things came to my mind as I read this blog…First is the law of attraction, which states: Whatever you focus on expands. Focus on the problem, and you get more problem. Second is one of my favorite Scriptures–Psalm 37:4…“Delight yourself in the LORD; and He will give you the desires of your heart.” I discovered a great acrostic memory tool for the word, “delight,” which helps me apply it to my everyday life:

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